Today would have been my grandfather’s 83 birthday.

My grandfather spent his 75th birthday in the hospital. He wasn’t conscious and he never left the hospital, but he turned 75. He died a week later. 

We love him and we miss him and all of our lives have gone on without him — sometimes reluctantly, frequently with significant hiccups, never without the memory of him present. He was our benevolent patriarch and we love him still. He lived out the American dream, created opportunities for everyone in our family, with all the attendant anxieties and obligations. 

I miss him every week. No longer every day, thankfully, but frequently enough. I miss him, but it’s undeniable that I came into my own and started to embrace my own life, to understand my own desire and ability to Do Things in life. I miss him but I know he never saw me at my best. I want to be my best for him, but more for myself. The ideas that a life worth living requires hard work and that hard work leads to rewards are ideas I got from him. I can recognize them as flawed and privileged in turns, but more importantly I recognize them as part of myself. 

Most importantly, I’ve embraced the idea I can create my own understanding of what living a good life means.

So, thank you CDP. We miss you, and we love you, and we’ll never forget you. And we’re living our lives as ourselves in part to honor you. 

kenyatta
melissa:

"There is a website, brbxoxo.com, that “searches online sexcam sites and only broadcasts feeds when the performers are absent.” The rooms themselves are very interesting and vary widely in their layout, decoration, and overall aesthetics. They are not necessarily American. And they are not always beige. If you watch this website for some time you see all kinds of colors and images. In the bottom left room below you can see religious icons. Sometimes there are sex toys left on the beds. 
To me, the sex-worker rooms look far more “normal” than the big American rooms of YouTube. They seem lived-in and more permanent. Some care has been taken for lighting. Collectively the decorative sense of women who masturbate for the gratification of their customers is more novel, more humane, than the typical empty rooms where people perform for a (much) broader audience. I have no idea why this is.” - “The American Room”

melissa:

"There is a website, brbxoxo.com, that “searches online sexcam sites and only broadcasts feeds when the performers are absent.” The rooms themselves are very interesting and vary widely in their layout, decoration, and overall aesthetics. They are not necessarily American. And they are not always beige. If you watch this website for some time you see all kinds of colors and images. In the bottom left room below you can see religious icons. Sometimes there are sex toys left on the beds.

To me, the sex-worker rooms look far more “normal” than the big American rooms of YouTube. They seem lived-in and more permanent. Some care has been taken for lighting. Collectively the decorative sense of women who masturbate for the gratification of their customers is more novel, more humane, than the typical empty rooms where people perform for a (much) broader audience. I have no idea why this is.” - “The American Room

factsarenothing
Create daily. Don’t have any other measure of success other than making something you are happy and proud of, right now, and put it out there for the world to see. Do this for twenty years. Then, even if the world does not come to see, ask yourself if this made your soul grow. Did your art get better? Is it something you can point at and be proud of? I can guarantee the answer will be yes.

Patrick Rhone, Some Thoughts About Writing

This is true, and it’s also bullshit.

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amerlcanapparel:

when she says she doesn’t send nudes

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when guys objectify women and expect them to send nudesimage

when someone asks you about your nuclear plans for russia

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When Russia sends you nudes

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turnabout:

"Maybe I should hang out in classier places to meet guys"“Would you really want to date someone who wouldn’t hang out in a dive?”
The Ding Dong Lounge is a place I spent way too many nights, where I drank way too many drinks, and took home some questionable guys. There were birthday parties and New Years and Christmases and fights and things I don’t remember. There are other that have made me sad over the years: The Rodeo Bar, Collins Bar, The West End, McHale’s, Zuni, but none really hurt like the Ding. It’s that place from my early 20s that I’ll always love and will always be part of my map of New York, even though I didn’t hang out there any more, even though it’s closing. 
So here’s to hostel boy season, the crooked tables, the lock on the bathroom I could barely reach, the shitty pizza place on the corner, Sergio and Two-Condom Jimmy, learning to drink whiskey and to tip your bartender well. And thank every higher power there is that social media and smartphones were not really a thing then. (But I have pictures, ladies. Boy do I.)

Every girl needs a good dive bar to grow up in. 

turnabout:

"Maybe I should hang out in classier places to meet guys"
“Would you really want to date someone who wouldn’t hang out in a dive?”

The Ding Dong Lounge is a place I spent way too many nights, where I drank way too many drinks, and took home some questionable guys. There were birthday parties and New Years and Christmases and fights and things I don’t remember. There are other that have made me sad over the years: The Rodeo Bar, Collins Bar, The West End, McHale’s, Zuni, but none really hurt like the Ding. It’s that place from my early 20s that I’ll always love and will always be part of my map of New York, even though I didn’t hang out there any more, even though it’s closing. 

So here’s to hostel boy season, the crooked tables, the lock on the bathroom I could barely reach, the shitty pizza place on the corner, Sergio and Two-Condom Jimmy, learning to drink whiskey and to tip your bartender well. And thank every higher power there is that social media and smartphones were not really a thing then. (But I have pictures, ladies. Boy do I.)

Every girl needs a good dive bar to grow up in. 

nogreatillusion
It was that female art of multitasking, he would conclude, that witchy capacity that girls possessed, that allowed them to retain dual and triple threads of attention at once. Girls could distinguish constantly and consciously between themselves and the performance of themselves, between the form and the substance. This double-handed knack, this perpetual duality, meant that any one girl was both an advertisement and a product at any one time. Girls were always acting. Girls would reinvent themselves, he later thought, with a sour twist to his mouth and his free hand flattening the hair on his crown, and boys could not.
Eleanor Catton, The Rehearsal (via elesheva)
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omghowgirl:

How To Socialize Your Puppy
One of the most important things you can do for your new puppy is get him/her used to new situations, people, and other pets. When dogs are younger its easier for them to accept and adapt to different situations. The older they get, the harder it is (though not impossible). Here are some ideas for how to help your cute pup get adjusted to society.

I didn’t even realize this was Channing Tatum until I read the tags. 

omghowgirl:

How To Socialize Your Puppy

One of the most important things you can do for your new puppy is get him/her used to new situations, people, and other pets. When dogs are younger its easier for them to accept and adapt to different situations. The older they get, the harder it is (though not impossible). Here are some ideas for how to help your cute pup get adjusted to society.

I didn’t even realize this was Channing Tatum until I read the tags.